Not that anyone will seriously read this, but typing about it will make me feel better... Where to start? I wonder if any of the girls on this site have ever had a male friend that didn't seem like any of your other male friends. This friend was different. Like one of your girl friends. One to comfort you when things get rough, but without other intentions.

I have/had a friend like that. That is until he asked me a question in which every answer would be the wrong one. The question in itself seemed very simple, and I thought: I'll just answer with the truth. The truth will always last longest. He asked me that if I were single, if I wanted to date him. Give him a try, be his girlfriend. Answer: yes if I had been single I wouldn't have minded trying to turn my best (male, girl) friend into my boyfriend.

I think that's where things went very wrong. He got a bit obsessive about that. He really wanted that date, while I was backing off. This is/was a friend of mine. A friend who I saw more as one of my girl friends rather than seeing him as a boy friend. It occured too late to me that he was develloping feelings for me that were not mutual, that are still not mutual. So even after telling him a million times that I was happy with the boyfriend I have, he still insisted we go on a date. We never went, but now I feel that giving him a truthful answer was not the right thing to do. I'm confused as what I should do. I've tried talking to the man, but he seems hurt, emotionally and no matter how many times I try, I don't feel like I'm making any progress...

So last night I finally got to talk to him when he was calm, though he sounded sad. We hadn't spoken in several weeks so I was a little delighted to finally talk to him, without him getting angry. I tried not to bring any of the past events up. I just want things to go back to the way they were. So tonight I told him that. Now it seems that the friends I told about this have been ignoring my male girl friend. All of a sudden they don't like him anymore. Now I feel like I should've just lied to him. It would've hurt him at the time, but it would've been better than this, right?

Tonight he asked me how I would feel if he cut me from his life. What that would do to me. I wasn't sure what to say. Again, even though it had worked against me before, I opted for telling the truth. I said that it would make me very sad if he did that.

Right now I have no idea how the truth worked out this time. Still I can't help but feel like it'll never be same. The things he said at some point were indeed hurtful and for a while I ignored him. So after last night we're on speaking terms, I think. This night we had a chat in which I finally managed to say what had been bothering me for a while. Now I think that I may have hurt his feelings, but it needed to be said.

I guess that all I can do now is wait. I don't really care who reads this, but I really appreciate advice on what I should do. I love my friends and I don't like it when anyone of them is hurting, especially not if I'm cause. I've apologised a million times to this guy, but he doesn't want to listen. I don't know what to do...